Holding Them Safe
Becoming a parent can evoke a deep sense of protectiveness, as parents worry when their child is upset or unwell. Being a reliable presence or 'safe haven' gives children the confidence they need to explore and learn and also gives parents a chance to revel in really seeing their child and to reflect on their values or ways of doing things that they hope to pass on.
Immense Love
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I'm just been massively amazed at how such a little person can be just so all-consuming straight away, and just the unbelievable amount of love you can have for this tiny person who you just even when you know nothing about, especially at the beginning, you don't really know, you don't know what you're doing very well. This is a new person, but you just have this amazing kind of gushing gooey feeling about them, and you just think, "Yeah, I would just do anything I could to, um, to do whatever I can for you." So, I guess, overriding feelings is just sort of immense love.
Immortality
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I think I always wanted to uh be a dad and I thought like inevitably I would have, have a baby. My perception of the baby was almost like it was, it was a uhh a clone of me or something. Like it's kind of a like my way of achieving immortality in a way, by passing uh my genetic information onto the next generation. I mean that is I think the idea how most people think about their mortality and I know I think that's one of the motivations for me to have a baby is kind of like thinking about your own mortality and what you want to pass on to the next generation and how what I achieve in my life how that will be carried on and I think that will partly be through my child.
Comfort in Each Other
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It has made a positive impact in my, in my life, that not only is this my child, but he's almost like kind of a very good friend in a way, that I can seek comfort in when I come home from work, or had a stressful day, or like afraid of the future, he's kind of… I know that, you know, whatever happens in the future any kind of instability that might happen, at least we'll have each other. So, he's kind of provided in a way that like, I've.. I'm not sure if I'm providing a lot of support, but I know he's kind of providing a lot of support for me in a way. So, so that's kind of like made me realize that he's kind of like a his own individual and he can really change, change my life uh for the better. I can't predict how he'll change my life, but I think I just know that it will have a very positive impact.
